Okay. It sounds like you hit the slump between the early game and the mid-game. Early game enimies are a breeze, but you keep running into things that are a bit too tough. No worries. That happens. It's a big world and not all dungeons are created equal.
The most detailed list of what equipment is located where is the
The Wiki. It has equipment lists, locations, drops, etc. All the nerdy stuff a person needs.
Based your build above, I strongly encourage you to start investing in STR and Whirlwind. You have a pretty solid well rounded build, so dedicating some STR for the next few levels will make a huge difference in your damage output.
I like Gris. She's my favorite Companion. But as a 2-H Warrior, you might want to try working with Hirge. She won't do as much damage, but she has heal, which is nifty.
Have you checked out the dungeon crypt in the desert? That has some decent drops. Same with the dungeon in the center of the dead forest. Also, for your level, you could check
Azagul Tomb. It might be a decent balance for you.
One last bit, keep an eye on element types. Sometimes new players forget to check their combat logs for what type of damage they are actually getting. Match your rings, etc for the damage. I.e. Death resistence when fighting ghosts, toxic resists when fighting spiders etc.
OH! You're level 9. Have you tried the Fort Assault yet? Do that. Than you can join Warrior's Guild. That's all geared around Level 9.